I’ve lost count of how many times someone’s asked, “Where can I find you on social media?”
The answer is always the same: you can’t. Well — not really. I’m not on Instagram. Not on Facebook. Not on TikTok. I don’t spend my mornings scrolling Twitter (or whatever it’s calling itself these days). The only place you might catch a glimpse of me is LinkedIn — and even there, I’m far from “active.” I log in when I need to, for business, and then I’m gone.
It’s not that I live under a rock. I know the world is more connected than ever — but I also know the price we’re all paying for it. The truth is, I stay away from social media for a handful of reasons, and the biggest one stares me in the face every day: my children.
I want them to grow up with clear minds, strong self-worth, and a real sense of who they are — and it’s hard enough to build that without the constant noise of curated feeds, comparison traps, and endless algorithms telling them who or what they should be. Study after study confirms what many of us already know deep down: social media can wreak havoc on mental health, especially for young people. Increased anxiety, depression, reduced attention span, poor sleep — all of it linked to too much screen time, too much scrolling, too much digital noise.
And here’s the thing: if I don’t want that for them, I can’t make excuses for myself, either. I don’t want to be the parent telling them to “put the phone down” while my own face is lit up by the same blue glow. They’re always watching, and what I model speaks louder than anything I could ever say.
But even beyond the parenting side of things — I honestly just don’t have the time, nor the desire, for it. Social media is designed to steal your attention. It’s built to be a black hole for your time, pulling you into a cycle of scroll, compare, react, repeat. And I’d rather invest that precious time into something that actually feeds my mind.
If I have a free moment, you’re more likely to find me buried in a good book, scribbling down thoughts in my journal, writing a blog post like this one, or getting lost in a documentary that leaves me thinking long after the credits roll.
When it comes to LinkedIn, sure — I’ll acknowledge that in the business world, it’s almost a necessary evil. But even then, I’d rather pour my creative energy into building my clients’ websites, refining their blog posts, helping their businesses grow — not spending my day chasing algorithms and likes for posts that may or may not get noticed in an endless digital sea.
So no, I’m not on social media. It’s not a fluke, and it’s not temporary. It’s a choice. One that helps me stay clear on what really matters.
And honestly? I don’t miss it.
Thanks for reading — and if you were hoping to connect, you’ll have better luck finding me in real life, in a good book, behind a keyboard, or helping a client bring their ideas to life. Social media may be off the table, but real connection never is.
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